- I had the septic tank pumped out last week because when the washer emptied it would back up into the shower, and when the toilet flushed all the other drains would gurgle. $200 later and a week later, we are having the same problems. The people who pumped out the septic tank said to me, “Huh, sounds like a plumbing problem.” Last year I spent $1100 getting plumbing fixed, and I can’t afford to do that this year. We are using one toilet for pooping and I’m praying that we don’t have a disaster befall us before I can think about having a plumber come to take a look. I’ve even thought about taking the snake and trying to run it down the washer drain. Maybe it’s just a big ball of hair and lint.
- I’m overdrawn by a couple hundred bucks and maxed out on my overdrawn protection, so until I get paid, I’m fucked. Many things have caused this financial mess, most of all my dumbassery and writing checks that people don’t fricking cash until three weeks after I’ve written them. I’m going to start paying cash for everything. Jesus. The financial stuff makes me want to curl up into a ball and hide. But if I don’t work, no money. This is really freaking stressing me out. Cable TV might have to be put on hold.
- I joined OkCupid because I’m , Ok, Stupid. God. Hell. I’m just tired of the whole thing. I “met” someone last week who really seemed like he would be a good match for me. We are going along, chatting on the phone, chatting on IM and then, boom, he stops. I call once, no return call, I IM once, no return IM. I send him a message and say, “Hey, if you aren’t interested, that’s ok, just let me know”, and I get a reply that says “Relax, are schedules aren’t connecting now. If I’m not interested I’ll tell you.” But it feels icky now and I’m not interested. And I’m wondering why I can’t seem to connect with *anyone* in a romantic, adult way. Is it my weight? Is is my personality? Is it the dogs? The kids? Smoking? What the frigging FUCK??? I feel hurt and frustrated, lonely and bored.
- And, on the other hand, what I’ve prayed not to mess around with anyone who isn’t right for me. I’m looking for someone specific, and I don’t want to learn another “lesson” with choosing the wrong man. So, with all the frustration, I’m also incredibly patient and if things don’t work out, I know that’s because there will be something better in my future.
- But DAMN.
- If it was just one guy this happened with, I wouldn’t give it much thought, but I’ve had multiple (more than 3) conversations start and die. Are they all ADD??
- My doctor gave me a challenge to lose #15 by the time I come back in May. All of a sudden I want to eat pierogies, chocolate pudding and bacon fat. Defiant much??
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I’m on OKC, too. I’ve met a handful of guys and only one of them was decent (and certain things prevented us from dating further — long story). Seems like there are a lot of weirdos on there. I dated this one guy and he was a TOTAL creep. Wouldn’t stop talking about his ex, then pretty much said something about how he thought I was intimidated by his INTELLECT when I showed a lack of interest. Uh, yea, pal. Whatever helps you sleep at night. After the first/last date, he borderline stalked me for 3 weeks. UGH.
I’ve decided I’m not looking. I’m gonna let whatever happens, happen.
Love you, girl. I really wish you lived here (or me, there) so we could hang out!
I can totally relate on the money bit. I’ve never been able to manage my money unless it’s in actual cash. I’ve tried everything–checking accounts, checking accounts with only a debit card, spreadsheets, Quicken, the works.
It always turns into a muddle inside my head, and I end up spending the same money twice or three times.
Now, instead of spreading a paycheck across several spreadsheet columns or other weird and unnatural stuff, I use envelopes.
Every payday X goes in the rent envelope, Y in the utilities envelope, and Z into the groceries envelope. $20 a week goes in my pocket for walkin’ around money.
The rest is split evenly between the “emergency/deep savings” envelope and the “something sparkly” envelope.
I try to keep the “emergency” envelope at three months of expenses. Leftover money from utilities, grocery and pocket money goes into the “something sparkly” envelope.
These days, I have the money I need before I need it. I can’t spend it twice either.
It’s nice to be able to walk into the bike shop to buy something sparkly knowing I can throw down a couple of Benjamins without blowing the budget. That envelope also finances my vacations, memberships and other stuff
Other folks with more responsibilities may need more envelopes, but the concept scales easily. You’ll also need someplace safe to keep the cash, and some willpower to not raid envelopes inappropriately. I find that easier to do with bigger bills in there.
Von, I keep forgetting that you’re updating here, I’m like a forgetful old lady. I know this is kind of an old update already but I’m curious to know how you’re doing, especially with the weight loss. I understand how you feel. Someone, like the doctor, tells you you must lose weight and suddenly you want to go eat your entire kitchen. I don’t know how it happened for me, really. No one told me I had to lose weight and I don’t have any health problems. Maybe that was it and I wasn’t going to fool myself with the “you can be fat and healthy” lie anymore. That and I was thinking about living through the rest of my life overweight and with chronic obesity-related illnesses. It’s like how you thought about smoking…being middle-aged and unable to shake a bad nervous habit. I “get” that.